EQ of the Heart

When I teach emotional intelligence or EQ, I empower people to communicate in ways that bring out the best in those who frustrate them the most.   But studies show that emotional intelligence goes much deeper than what we say or don’t say.  It’s more fundamental than...
Three Ways to Be Light in the Darkness

Three Ways to Be Light in the Darkness

It’s easy to get depressed these days.  Between meanspirited win/lose politics, the dismissal of fact-based debate, public shootings, brutal treatment of migrants and asylum seekers, extreme weather events, and destabilized foreign relations, the darkness around us...
Christmas and the Last-Minute Leader

Christmas and the Last-Minute Leader

If you are a last-minute leader, you’re not alone.  You’re not the only one putting finishing touches on a worship service, sermon, play, piece of music, bulletin or outreach effort.  In fact, you can be forgiven for thinking your timing is right in line with the...
Women, Leadership and the B-Word

Women, Leadership and the B-Word

When a male leader is direct, confident, or decisive, he’s often known by a C-word:  Confident.  Competent.  Charismatic.  He’s prized as a strong leader, a natural leader.  A woman, however, is often stuck with a less desirable word. With less desirable...
Debate as Sacrament

Debate as Sacrament

At one church I visited recently, a long-time member confided that the church was going to have to split because the two pastors had differing views on human sexuality and the Bible.   Why can’t our differences live side by side?  They do in the Bible.  ...