Home For All: A Vision Fulfilled

Home For All: A Vision Fulfilled

by | Jun 30, 2025

“At Trinity United Methodist Church, we envision a Home For All—

where every family in Chester, Virginia lives in a safe, secure, affordable home.”

With this bold, Spirit-led vision, Certified Renewalist Rev. Alan Layman, a recent graduate of Creating a Culture of Renewal®, is reimagining what church can be: not only a sanctuary of worship, but a catalyst for community transformation.

As Alan puts it, “In our community, everyone who desires to has housing that is safe, secure, permanent, and affordable for their income and resources. Because this provides daily security, families can focus on being healthy in their relationships and responsibilities. Children have a place to play and study and sleep and do better in school. Overall, the long-term impact is abundant, providing stability and community investment. The church benefits because the community is healthier, and folks are less fearful.”

This week, we are proud to highlight Alan as the first in a series of Certified Renewalists who are bringing their big, Jesus-like dreams to life in ways that uplift entire communities.

As you will read in what Alan writes below, his story is one of prayerful discernment, courageous leadership, and deep alignment with God’s unfolding vision. From hotel rooms to permanent homes, Trinity UMC’s Home For All initiative is not just about housing, it’s about healing, hope, and the holy work of renewal.

 

Defining the Vision: A Home for All

For years, Trinity UMC has fed the hungry and cared for the homeless in partnership with A Place of Miracles Café. The café serves the “hotel homeless” community near us, in Chester, VA. We provide fresh fruit weekly (in lieu of altar flowers), invest financially, and serve in the hot-meal and home grocery ministries. In the context of the emerging vision, we began to wonder if our support was in fact, enabling families to stay in the hotels. Was there a better way?

We operated with the assumption that those families who were living in a hotel room could not afford anything better; that they were doing the best possible at that time in their lives. What we learned, when we began asking, was that many of them just need assistance with down payments and utility connections. That in fact, their monthly hotel bill exceeded what they might need for rent. We were beginning to “get it.”

Our initial team was the Leadership Board, who participated in crafting the vision, how it might play in the church and community, what resources we might need, leading the prayer effort. When we had a sense of where we thought God was leading us, we brought in our mission team leaders. At that time, they connected us with a nearby UMC (in another district) that was doing something similar through the local public school system. Their focus was only on families identified as “homeless” within the school system, operating under the McKinney-Vinto federal grant. We quickly determined that the need was greater than either program had thought. We were overwhelmed with the magnitude of need and the competing community programs trying to help. Yet, there remained a gap. I struggled at this point to stay focused and tuned in to what God was doing in our midst.

A true wake-up call came when one of our board members informed me that he and his wife were going to give $75,000 to the Dream Like Jesus initiative. This was before we had settled on specifics, laid down a process, or even come up with a name for the ministry! Church folks were seeing the vision and embracing it, acknowledging that it was not about “us” but about the flourishing of the community and the Kingdom of God. Their support inspired many parishioners and community members. The vision took off! By early spring, we were two months ahead of the implementation schedule.

We were working and planning alongside the local public school system, the local department of social services, the local mental health department, another United Methodist Church, a Richmond-based homeless care program, and the Place of Miracles Café. The Leadership Board / Vision Team continues to be motivated by Dream Like Jesus, a book we have worked through and discussed now for nine months, and we have a standing item on our monthly meeting agenda for The Dream.

 

Putting the Pieces Together: From Vision to Action

As the Leadership Board / Vision Team worked with tools from Creating a Culture of Renewal®, we embraced the big-picture vision and began to wrestle with the housing subject matter.

“Why this?” we asked. We discussed at length our cultural influence, how we are connected with, and abundantly support, an assistance program for families who live in hotels, apparently enabling them to remain there. While we think the feeding and supportive ministry is vital, we began to imagine “what if?” What if we worked with the same fervor to get families into more permanent housing?

We prayerfully considered, “Why us?” Biblically, we were influenced by acknowledging these are our neighbors; that we are a compassionate, generous and resourceful church; and, admitting that we all have safe, secure and affordable homes.

“Why now?” Affordable housing is a movement in the making, across the county and in our local area. There is a momentum that we can latch on to.

The primary place of pushback in the early stages was from the Mission Team. They were upset that they had not been brought in sooner, to help plan execution. It was for that reason we did not involve them until we had a clear sense of direction. The mission team are “do-ers.” They are in-the-weeds problem solvers. They are executors, and when the time was right, we brought them to the table. When introduced to this vision, they immediately began elaborating on the “how.”

In January 2025, on Epiphany Sunday, we presented the vision and plan to the congregation. From the onset, we created pathways for their involvement. We created two “teams” – a prayer team and an implementation team. Anyone could be involved in one or the other. We also began a financial appeal. On that announcement day, we formed a dozen members prayer team that pledges daily to pray for the ministry, the implementation team, the church, the homeless community and the greater Chester community. That day, we formed an 8-person implementation team, that collectively makes final spending and assistance decisions; and, on that day we received $10,000 in pledges and gifts for “Homes for All.”

This was a collaborative effort of church, community and private groups and individuals making a dream come true. As of the end of June 2025, we have assisted 12 families and given over $30,000 for safe, secure, affordable homes in our community.

 

Seeing Results: Real Change in Church and Community

The greatest shift in culture has been a desire by members of the congregation to lead, develop, and participate in new programs and services. A space has been created for exploration, trial-and-error, failure and success. We are seeing this as well in the new staff hires of the last year, as they “get it” and want to join in the creative efforts on behalf of the church and community. New small groups and affinity groups are forming. In addition, we are partnering with other churches in the community, beyond the Homes for All ministry.

Our growth is spiritual! We are envisioning how we can be the church in the community, as we bathe all we do in prayer. We are more confident in what God is doing with us, and more trusting of the path we are on. We are better able to recognize that something is not working or has finished its time. In the last year, in addition to the “Homes For All”, Jesus-like dream, Trinity has installed a new electronic security system and a digital sign in front of the church. These are big changes for a small church. Noteworthy, through the first 90 days of implementation, our expenditures have been generously matched by new contributions.

I have grown in that I no longer have to be the source or holder of innovation; others have gifts and inspiration too. I am better able to recognize communication style differences and not perceive them as attacks or opposition. At the same time, I recognize both my responsibility and authority to lead, to cast the vision, to celebrate the wins and remember the losses, to model receptivity and openness, to execute the plan and vision to reality.

 

Ready to Start Your Own Journey of Renewal?

Alan Layman’s story is just one example of how bold vision, Spirit-led leadership, and community collaboration can transform a church—and a town. If you’re ready to cast your own God-sized vision and create lasting change in your ministry, we invite you to take the next step.

Join us for the upcoming interactive seminar How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success.

In this free 90-minute session, you’ll discover what’s working for leaders like Alan, and learn how to begin your own journey toward renewal, growth, and deeper impact.

Seats are limited. Register today and let your next chapter begin.

 

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5 Tips for Balancing Family Life During Leadership Transitions

5 Tips for Balancing Family Life During Leadership Transitions

by | Jun 17, 2025

It’s appointment season in the United Methodist Church. Changes in appointments can be disruptive to home and family life, especially if the move isn’t just across town. Balancing family life during leadership transition is a vital part of the process.

In the past, I’ve talked about the emotional rollercoaster that comes with clergy transitions. And the very real sense of loss that can accompany leaving a church community behind. Now, I am going to take a look at the toll transitions can have on your own family. Packing up and moving, or even simply changing churches in the same town, can be just as disruptive for your spouse and children as it is for you.

Before we talk about how to support your family during your appointment change, we need to address the misconception that appointment season affects you more than them!

 

Tipped Scales

During, and for some time after you move, your stress levels are likely to skyrocket. This can create a tense atmosphere at home, impacting everyone’s emotional well-being. The long hours and unexpected meetings will likely disrupt established family routines. Quality family time might take a backseat which can leave your family feeling lost or uncertain about their own place in the new dynamic.

Keep in mind that you, as clergy, have a purpose. This path is your choice and you welcome and accept it. But each member of your family will experience their own feelings and responses to change. Your spouse, like you, has likely been very active in your church community. He or she is leaving them, too; as well as their close friends outside of church.  While your partner is supporting you in the transition, are your partner and your family’s feelings getting lost in the shuffle?

As you’re practicing self-care for your own emotional upsets, the scale may tip with the weight of the move on your family’s emotions.

 

5 Tips for Balancing Family Life

It’s not always easy to bring the emotional scale into balance, but I’ve got some tips that have helped both me, and pastor friends, through years of appointment transitions.

1) Acknowledge Their Feelings: Your partner and family have seen how the upcoming move has affected you. Chances are they’ve supported you through appointment changes before. Maybe transitions in the past haven’t gone well, or easily.

But you can make this one go as smoothly as possible by acknowledging that your family is also experiencing the anxiety and stress of change. Acknowledge how this disrupts them, too. Really listen to their concerns. And reassure them that you’ll get through this together.

 

2) Involve Them in the Process: Let your family know you value their input. Discuss how you can adjust schedules or responsibilities to accommodate the changes.

Make sure to find what they need and love in your new area. The public library or swimming pool, the nearest playground, pottery classes, dance schools, sports clubs. The quicker they get involved, the easier their adjustment.

 

3) Family Time, Revamped: The transition might disrupt your usual routines. Rethink family time – maybe it’s shorter bursts of quality time throughout the day instead of long, pre-planned outings.

This is a perfect chance to hit the reset button and create new family routines and traditions. Brainstorm ideas together – a weekly game night, a family movie marathon, or even a dedicated “check-in” time where everyone shares their highs and lows of the week.

Creating new traditions adds a special twist to a change that may not always feel like a lot of fun!

 

4) Reassure the Kids: If you have children, they may blame you for tearing them away from best friends, sports teams, and dance lessons. Try telling an upcoming high school senior that he’s moving to another state and changing schools! He’s been the newcomer before and he may have dared to imagine that he’d be graduating with people he knew.

Young ones don’t have the years of experience to understand that they’ll make new and lasting friendships. Focus on the adventure of seeing new places and meeting new people.

But don’t minimize their loss; leaving friends can hit young lives profoundly.

 

5) Prioritize Self-Care (For Everyone!): Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup. These times are stressful enough without the addition of moving. Make self-care a priority for yourself and your family. Schedule relaxing activities, encourage healthy habits, and don’t be afraid to ask for help when you, your partner, or your children, need it.

 

Remember, leadership transitions are a marathon, not a sprint. By following these tips and working together as a unit, your family can not only survive this transition but emerge stronger. Transitions of all kinds are a normal part of life and open communication, empathy, and a little creativity can go a long way in balancing a healthy family life with your appointment change.

 

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Apostles of a New Future: Leading the Church with Courage

Apostles of a New Future: Leading the Church with Courage

by | Jun 10, 2025

We are living through a time of extraordinary unraveling—politically, culturally, and even spiritually. Life-long values and democratic institutions are being challenged, dismantled and deconstructed. Hope is in short supply. The Church is not immune. As expectations change, congregations are unsure of their place in a shifting world.

But what if decline and confusion are not the end—but the beginning of renewal? What if this is your invitation to become an Apostle of a New Future?

This is the final blog in a three-part series based on my keynote, Re-Thinking Renewal in Perilous Times. In the first blog, we explored how to lead with hope even when the world is falling apart. In the second, we wrestled with rediscovering the heart of ministry in a culture of fear.

Now, I am inviting you to turn toward the future. What kind of leader will you be in this pivotal moment for the Church? And how can you lead the church with courage in this time of profound change?

 

The Myth That Playing It Safe Will Save the Church

Before we address how you can lead, let’s confront a damaging myth: That if you can just avoid rocking the boat—stay moderate, stay neutral, stay inoffensive—you can preserve what little remains. Many institutions—media, legal, higher education, retail stores—have already adjusted their values to align with the current administration. They have tossed DEI initiatives, negotiated settlements to avoid lawsuits, and adjusted their public values to comply with the changing landscape. But the Church was never meant to play it safe.

The truth is, playing it safe has never saved anyone. Not a person. Not a people. And certainly not Jesus or the Church. The early Christians were audacious. They faced empire with songs, injustice with solidarity, and persecution with unshakable joy. They weren’t afraid to carry bold messages—radical love, sharing of resources, inclusive community, and resurrection power. Why would you settle for anything less today?

 

Beethoven’s Audacity

During my keynote at the Closing Retreats for Creating a Culture of Renewal® cohorts, I shared the story of Ludwig van Beethoven. It wasn’t for the sake of classical trivia—it was for the sake of your spiritual courage.

Beethoven composed his most powerful, history-defining music, the 9th Symphony, from which comes Ode to Joy found in many hymnals, when he was profoundly deaf. Can you imagine that?

When he could no longer hear the music with his ears, he heard it in his soul. He wrote from within. From memory, yes—but also from vision. From deep resonance. From a place beyond circumstance. That’s what Christian leadership looks like for you right now.
You may no longer hear the music of cultural relevance, institutional power, or packed pews the way you once did.

But if you listen, you still hear the music of the Spirit. You can write the next movement of God’s work in the world from within. Not by replicating the past, but by composing a bold, new symphony of renewal.

Like Beethoven, you must create from a place deeper than the inputs from around you. A place of divine resonance, Spirit-led imagination, and apostolic courage.

 

Apostles of a New Future: The Courage to Choose

Let me be clear that this is a pivotal moment for the Church. It is a time for us to stand for Gospel values of inclusion, hospitality, love of God, love of neighbor, love of stranger. The question is: is it a pivotal moment for you—as a leader of the Church?

Will you serve empire? Or will you continue to midwife and serve the kingdom?
Will you baptize authoritarianism in the name of stability?
Or will you align with apostles of justice who risk for the sake of love?

These are not theoretical questions. They are spiritual decisions that shape everything. Your preaching. Your presence. Your prayers. Your willingness to follow Jesus wherever he leads—even into the heart of conflict, compassion, and costly grace. This is no time for neutrality.

As an apostle—a messenger of Jesus—your message matters. Every apostle needs a message. So let me ask you. What is your message?

  • Maybe it’s this: Love God. Love neighbor. No exceptions.
  • Or this: Empathy is resistance.
  • Or my personal favorite: There is no us vs. them. We live in a we-world.

Whatever your message is, be clear. And carry it. Preach it. Post it. Live it.

Let your people see it in your leadership, your vision, your pastoral care, your justice work. Because you are not only a disciple. You are an apostle. An apostle of love. An apostle of justice. An apostle of renewal. And the world needs that now more than ever.

 

The Five A’s of Apostleship

To live into this apostolic moment, it’s time for you to embody what I describe in my book Believe Like Jesus: Rising from Discipleship to Apostleship as the Five A’s of Apostleship.

  1. Authorized – You are commissioned by Christ. Not just to maintain a building or perform rituals, but to lead renewal.
  2. Anointed – You are spiritually gifted. Your calling is not generic—it is Spirit-empowered.
  3. Appointed – You were born for this moment. Your leadership is not an accident.
  4. Accountable – You don’t do this alone. You’re part of the Body. You’re answerable to a higher calling and a community.
  5. Ambassador – You represent a kingdom that cannot be shaken. And you carry its values into a world desperate for them.

That’s your job description. That’s your identity. That’s your calling.

 

Dos and Don’ts of Courageous Leadership

Do:

  • Do speak your message with boldness.
  • Do trust the deeper music of the Spirit within you.
  • Do evolve your methods to serve your mission.
  • Do anchor yourself in daily spiritual practice and fierce love.
  • Do form communities of renewal that support, challenge, and commission you.

 

Don’t:

  • Don’t settle for playing it safe.
  • Don’t spiritualize silence in the face of injustice.
  • Don’t ignore your own soul in the name of service.
  • Don’t postpone courage for another time. That time is now.

 

Next Steps / Takeaways

This is your call to lead courageously. The world doesn’t need more church leaders protecting tradition for tradition’s sake. The world needs you—a bold apostle who carries a message of love, justice, and Spirit-led renewal, no matter the cost. And you don’t have to do this alone.

Join me this July for RISE Into Spiritual Transformation, a six-week interactive experience for leaders like you who are ready to:

  • Rediscover your bold, Spirit-born message.
  • Reconnect with your call and claim your apostleship.
  • Lead with clarity, courage, and the power of the Five A’s.

This isn’t just another class. It’s a launching pad. A spiritual ignition point. A new composition written in the key of hope. RISE is where your next chapter begins.

Let this message of hope rise in you—and through you.

 

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Rediscovering the Heart of Ministry in a Culture of Fear

Rediscovering the Heart of Ministry in a Culture of Fear

by | Jun 4, 2025

In a time when fear and uncertainty dominate the headlines—and often our congregational conversations—it’s easy to lose sight of why we said yes to ministry in the first place. But what if these perilous times could become fertile ground for deep spiritual transformation? What if fear wasn’t the end of the story, but the beginning of a more faithful, courageous one?

This blog is the second in a three-part series drawn from my keynote, Re-Thinking Renewal in Perilous Times. In the first blog, we explored “How to Lead with Hope When the World is Falling Apart.” In this post, we’ll dig into how to reclaim the heart of ministry when fear clouds the way. You’ll walk away with a renewed sense of calling, concrete guidance on what it means to lead from the heart, and tools to cultivate resilience in your congregation. Even in a culture of fear.

 

Fear Has Displaced Faith

Let’s name what’s real. Many churches today are shrinking, budgets are tightening, and denominational rifts are deepening. Add to that the personal toll ministry takes—overwork, burnout, and loneliness—and it’s no wonder that even the most faithful leaders question whether they can keep going.

In these conditions, fear often takes over. Fear of failure. Fear of irrelevance. Fear of saying the wrong thing. Fear of not doing enough. As fear grows, faith seems to shrink. The heart of ministry—serving God’s people with passion, purpose, and clarity—can begin to feel like a distant memory. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

There is a way to reconnect with your first love: the call of God on your life. But before we get there, we need to dispel a common myth. That is the myth that if you just work harder that things will get better.

 

The Myth That If You Just Work Harder, Things Will Get Better

There’s a persistent myth in ministry that says, “If I just work harder, pray more, serve longer, things will get better.” But the truth is, burnout doesn’t yield fruit. Over functioning doesn’t renew your spirit. And more effort without alignment to your true calling only leads to more exhaustion.

The real breakthrough comes not from pushing harder, but from pausing long enough to rediscover the heart of why you do what you do.

 

My Wake-Up Call in Ministry

Years ago, I hit my own wall in ministry. I was pastoring a church that had all the typical signs of decline: dwindling attendance, worn-out leaders, and a community that seemed more interested in the past than the future. I was trying to do everything myself—preach, teach, visit, organize, educate—and I thought if I just tried harder, it would all come together.

But instead, I started to lose my sense of joy. I felt lonely and persecuted. My prayers went unanswered. My energy waned.

It wasn’t until I took a step back and asked a deeper question—“What is the heart of my calling?”—that things began to change. I realized that ministry isn’t about keeping up appearances or managing decline. It’s about empowering people to steward Jesus’ big dream. It’s about embodying hope in the face of fear. It’s about spiritual transformation.

This insight became the seed of what is now Creating a Culture of Renewal®. And it still drives my work today.

 

How to Reconnect with the Heart of Ministry

Here’s what I’ve learned—both through personal experience and coaching hundreds of church leaders from around the country—about reclaiming your heart for ministry in a culture of fear:

  1. Acknowledge the Fear—Don’t Ignore It
    Fear thrives in the shadows. When we name it, we disarm it. Begin your leadership conversations with honesty about the fears people are carrying—about the church, their lives, or the world. You’ll build trust by being real.

 

  1. Reconnect with Your Why
    Remember the moment you first felt God’s call. What moved you? What broke your heart? What inspired you to lead? Go back to that. Journal about it. Preach about it. Let that original call renew your vision.

 

  1. Shift from Maintenance to Mission
    Churches stuck in maintenance mode quickly fall into despair. But churches centered on mission—even small, local, humble missions—find purpose again. Ask your people: What is God calling us to do right now, in this place, with what we have?

 

  1. Practice Resilient Spiritual Leadership
    Spiritual transformation begins with you. Carve out time for prayer, breathing, rest, and play. When your soul is nourished, your leadership flows from a deeper place. When you lead from that space, people notice.

 

  1. Cultivate Courageous Conversations
    Fear shuts down dialogue. But hope opens it up. Lead your congregation through intentional conversations about the future—not to preserve the past, but to co-create what’s next. Listen deeply. Speak boldly. Lead with love.

 

Dos and Don’ts

Do:

  • Do revisit your original call often.
  • Do share stories of faith overcoming fear.
  • Do involve others in discerning your church’s next faithful step.

 

Don’t:

  • Don’t pretend everything’s fine when it’s not.
  • Don’t isolate yourself—community is essential for resilience.
  • Don’t wait for “someday” to lead with heart. That time is now.

 

Next Steps/Takeaways

Are you ready to rediscover the heart of ministry—and lead from a place of spiritual power rather than fear?

Join me for RISE Into Spiritual Transformation, a dynamic online experience launching this July. In RISE, you’ll explore the essential inner work of apostolic leadership, learn how to align with your God-given call, and connect with a community of faithful change-makers just like you. All in six weeks.

This isn’t just another class or online course—it’s a spiritual awakening for church leaders ready to transform themselves and their ministries.

Let’s move beyond survival. Let’s lead with hope, courage, and clarity.

Let’s rediscover the heart of ministry in a culture of fear.

 

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How to Lead with Hope When the World Is Falling Apart

How to Lead with Hope When the World Is Falling Apart

by | May 27, 2025

We are living in a time when crises seem to pile on daily—wars rage, democracy is dismantled, institutions we once trusted are unraveling, and polarization is tearing communities and congregations apart. The Church is not exempt. Many leaders are burned out, congregations are shrinking, and hope can feel in short supply. And yet, this is precisely when the light of Christ is most needed. Your leadership matters more now than ever—not just for the survival of your church, but for the transformation of the world. That’s why it’s so important to learn how to lead with hope when the world is falling apart.

This blog kicks off a three-part series inspired by my recent keynote, Re-Thinking Renewal in Perilous Times. Over the next few weeks, we’ll explore what it means to embody a renewed kind of leadership that isn’t overwhelmed by the chaos of the world but is energized by the Spirit to transform it. Each blog will address a core challenge facing Christian leaders today and offer concrete steps toward spiritual vitality, missional clarity, and lasting impact. Whether you’re clergy or laity, this series will equip you to face perilous times with power, love, and a sound mind.

 

What’s Weighing Church Leaders Down

We are living in perilous times. Church leaders face the triple threat of congregational fatigue, cultural division, and spiritual apathy. Add in climate anxiety, global unrest, and political upheaval, and it’s no wonder even the most faithful are quietly asking, “Where is God in all this?”

It’s tempting to respond with more programming, more preaching, or more performance. But none of those can address the deep soul weariness that plagues our people. Or ourselves.

If you’re a leader who is trying to inspire renewal while battling your own burnout, you need more than good intentions. You need a new paradigm. That’s where re-thinking renewal comes in.

 

The Myth of More

One of the most pervasive myths in church leadership today is that renewal comes from working harder and doing more. The truth? Real renewal comes from doing differently. It’s not about more output, it’s about more alignment with God’s power, presence, and purpose.

 

My Journey to Rethinking Renewal

When I first entered ministry, I believed that if I worked hard enough, prayed deeply enough, and served long enough, I’d see transformation. And I did. Sometimes. But far too often, I encountered systems stuck in scarcity, people afraid of change, and leaders who looked successful on the outside but were falling apart on the inside.

Over time, I discovered that renewal isn’t something we manufacture; it’s something we make space for. As I began to rethink how I showed up as a leader, from striving to surrender and moving from control to collaboration, things started to shift.

In Creating a Culture of Renewal®, I now teach church leaders how to partner with God to co-create a new future. And it begins with re-thinking what renewal even is.

 

What Renewal Really Looks Like

So what is real renewal?

  • Renewal is not a return to the past. It’s not about recreating the “glory days” of full pews or booming Sunday Schools. That nostalgia can keep us stuck. Renewal is about moving forward in faith, not backward in fear.
  • Renewal is not a one-time event. It’s a way of being. It’s a posture of curiosity, courage, and co-creation with the Spirit. It’s how we live and lead in a world where old systems are breaking down.
  • Renewal starts with us. Before your church can be renewed, you must be renewed. That means paying attention to your soul. Listening to your body. Attuning to the Spirit. And trusting that God is still at work—even when it looks like the whole system is crumbling.

 

How to Lead with Hope When the World Is Falling Apart

Leading with hope doesn’t mean denying reality. It means being deeply rooted in God’s presence so you can offer something different than fear or despair. Here are three paradigm shifts that make hope possible, even now:

 

  1. From Panic to Presence
    Perilous times activate our survival instincts. But leading from panic only spreads more fear. Renewal begins when we learn to lead from presence—not performance. That means slowing down, listening deeply, and making space for God to speak. It’s countercultural, but it’s powerful.
  2. From Scarcity to Spirit
    Churches often operate from a scarcity mindset: “We don’t have enough people, money, or energy.” But the Spirit doesn’t work on spreadsheets. The early church didn’t grow because they had abundance—they grew because they believed in God’s abundance. Start asking: “Where is the Spirit already at work?” and join in.
  3. From Control to Co-Creation
    As leaders, we like to have plans. Control feels safe. But the renewal God is birthing won’t be micromanaged. It’s messy, unpredictable, and Spirit-led. When we shift from controlling outcomes to co-creating with God and our people, we allow something truly new to emerge.

These shifts breathe new life into tired systems. But they start with your own willingness to lead differently. The good news? You don’t have to do it alone.

 

Simple Wisdom for the Journey

Do

  • Take time for personal spiritual renewal before you lead others.
  • Cultivate silence and solitude as spiritual practices.
  • Invite your congregation into honest conversations about where they see God at work.
  • Look for small signs of life—and celebrate them.

 

Don’t

  • Rush into the next program or initiative just to feel productive.
  • Avoid hard truths. Denial is the enemy of renewal.
  • Try to do it all yourself. Collaboration is key.
  • Discount the power of the Spirit moving in unconventional ways.

 

Next Steps and Takeaways

If you’re ready to lead with hope when the world is falling apart, join me for a 90-minute interactive seminar: “How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®.”

In this online session, you’ll:

  • Discover why many churches are struggling—and how to turn things around.
  • Explore three barriers to renewal and the breakthroughs that overcome them.
  • Envision a Spirit-led path to transformation for your ministry.

This seminar is your next step toward real, lasting impact.

Register now and start creating the kind of change your church—and your soul—has been longing for.

 

 

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4 Strategies for Building Relationships in New Appointments

4 Strategies for Building Relationships in New Appointments

by | May 20, 2025

Appointment season in the United Methodist Church can be stressful, both due to possible struggles with finding closure at the church you are leaving and from the emotional upset your family may be experiencing due to the move. And you don’t really need additional stress these days. For that reason, I’d like to take a look at four strategies for building new relationships, especially for church leaders soon to be in transition.

Let’s face it, a successful ministry hinges on connection. But transitions can be tough. Front and center for many of us is the question: how do I build strong relationships with this new church family? New faces, new routines, and the pressure to build strong connections quickly – it’s enough to make even the most outgoing pastor sweat a little.

And that’s where the misconception that you can just saunter right into your new appointment and the congregation will welcome you with open arms, comes in.

 

Building New Relationships Takes Time

Building strong, solid relationships takes time, but the rewards far outweigh the effort. Keep in mind that your new congregation may have had a deep connection with their previous clergy. They might be sad and frustrated that a leader they loved is gone.

Or, as sometimes happens, they may have had a negative experience. Maybe they just never clicked with the pastor who’s left. They might be wary of a new leader, hesitant in their acceptance of you, wanting to test the waters before really welcoming you in.

But there are strategies you can use to help make the transition easier on you, your family, and your new congregation and church home.

1) Be a Listening Ear (and Remember Those Names!)

People want to be heard, not lectured at. So, when you meet those smiling faces at your first potluck, resist the urge to launch into a five-year vision plan. Instead, ask questions! What are the joys and challenges of this church community? What are their hopes for the future? Keep in mind that times are stressful for many people right now, not just pastors, so real listening is more important than ever.

Schedule one-on-one meetings with key church members – council leaders, committee chairs, even folks you meet at coffee hour. Grab a plate of donuts at the next church breakfast, find a comfy corner, and become an active listener. You’ll learn a ton, and folks will appreciate your genuine interest.

Keep in mind that the most active members of the church aren’t always the most vocal. They may not be interested in being on council or sitting through hours-long meetings. But that doesn’t mean they’re just warming the pews – they may actually be the people who do the work and make things happen. So, keep an eye and ear open for those key leaders, too!

2) Find Common Ground

Look for shared passions! Do you have a love for gardening? See if there’s a community garden or a church garden project you can join.

Are you a music buff? Connect with the choir director! He or she may be looking to shake it up a bit; listen, listen, listen for hints of ways to grow and renew your congregation!

Is your church commited to social justice? Find ways to help those most in need.

Finding common ground is a fantastic way to build rapport and create a sense of community. Take some time to discover the unique strengths and passions of your new church. What ministries are thriving? What are some hidden talents lurking amongst the congregation? Building on existing strengths is a great way to show you value their traditions while also subtly weaving in your own ideas.

3) Lead by Serving

Actions speak louder than words. Offer to help with a church cleanup day, volunteer at a local soup kitchen alongside church members, or simply lend a hand with setting up for events. Showing you’re willing to roll up your sleeves speaks volumes about your commitment and leadership style.

And, don’t forget to include your family in your actions!  They are a vital part of your new church community, too.

4) Celebrate the Wins (Big and Small!)

A little recognition goes a long way. Acknowledge milestones, birthdays, achievements, and even small victories. A handwritten note or a public shout-out can make a big difference in creating a positive and supportive church environment. Did your youth group finally reach their fundraising goal? Did you have a record turnout for a Wednesday night service?

Taking the time to acknowledge and celebrate successes, no matter how seemingly insignificant, will go a long way toward fostering positive feelings between you and your new people.

 

Remember, building relationships takes time and intentionality. Be patient, be present, and most importantly, be yourself. With a little effort, you’ll be well on your way to growing a  vibrant and thriving church community in your new appointment. And I encourage you to get the ball rolling by joining me for my free online seminar, How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success where your eyes will be opened to the miracles that await you in your new appointment!

 

Adapted and revised from Building New Relationships: 4 Strategies for Church Leaders in Transition, July 2024.

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