What Kind of Kid Disciples Are in Your Church?

What Kind of Kid Disciples Are in Your Church?

by | Aug 29, 2023

My parents are fond of saying that us five kids came out of the womb with our personalities intact. The same may be true of the children and youth in your congregation. When discipling young people, it is essential to understand their personalities to reach them most effectively. I like using the DiSC® model of behavior to assess personality styles. Although personalities are technically not set until later in life, you can learn a lot about a child by observing their actions and behavior now.

For example, children whose personality reflects the Dominance (D) style are often seen as brave, confident, and assertive. A child with the Influence style (i) is outgoing, enthusiastic, and talkative. Both (D) and (i) styles are fast paced. Children with the style of Steadiness (S) are even-tempered and empathetic, while children with a Conscientiousness (C) style like to take their time and be organized. (S) and (C) styles are moderately paced. And, of course, all children, like adults, reflect each of the four styles within their personalities to differing degrees.

By understanding the different DiSC® styles of the children of your congregation, you can create an environment where children feel comfortable, engaged, and able to relate to the message being taught. You can help by providing opportunities for them to learn and interact in ways as diverse as their personalities.

For instance, let’s say you have a group of children that primarily are Influence (I) style. Connect the group by organizing a fun and interactive activity that allows them to express themselves creatively. Children with the (S) style may appreciate a calm and nurturing environment for engaging in group play. Children with the (D) style can be given a problem that requires risk or boldness to solve. Children with the (C) style can design processes for caring or incorporating new children into the group.

Creating an engaging and inclusive environment for children in church is essential for their spiritual growth. As adults and leaders, we must ensure children feel safe and respected in their faith community. After all, Jesus too exhibited varying personality styles, and we see it in the Gospels. We know of his compassion, forgiveness, and empathy, but we know he also took risks, questioned, challenged, inspired, and shook things up.

By creating an environment where children can feel comfortable exploring their faith and expressing themselves, this helps them be more Christlike. Invite them into conversations and provide activities tailored to their preference. 

Regardless of DiSC style, here are 6 things you can do to create a safe and empowering environment for children: 

  • Encourage children to ask questions freely 
  • Model kindness, understanding, and respect
  • Invite the children to be honest and take risks in sharing their perspectives 
  • Make sure everyone is included and feels heard across the DiSC® styles 
  • Facilitate conversations that are meaningful for the child’s age and development level
  • Shake things up! 

Understanding the DiSC® model of human behavior and applying this knowledge to create an inclusive and engaging environment for children in church is not just a matter of intellectual understanding. It is, in fact, a call to practical wisdom – to understand and act upon these learnings. It’s about stepping out of the realm of theory into the realistic, dynamic world of action. 

In my three-year award-winning leadership coaching program, Creating a Culture of Renewal®, church leaders are equipped with a variety of DiSC® profiles to facilitate the growth of healthy and vibrant church communities.  Communities that empower both adults and children. Reach out to learn more.

 

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3 Powerful Impacts of Group Culture on Congregations

3 Powerful Impacts of Group Culture on Congregations

by | Aug 22, 2023

Group culture is the “way we do things.” Churches, denominations, and even committees have a group culture. While ethnicity, region, and generation impact the way a group functions, group culture gets at something deeper. In this article, I’m going to share with you 3 powerful impacts of group culture on congregations. And how you can leverage it to maximize your influence on the communities you serve.

 

DiSC® Model of Human Behavior

In Creating a Culture of Renewal®, we use the DiSC® model of human behavior. This model provides an easy-to-understand framework for human behavior. It names four primary behavior styles: Dominance (D), Influence (i), Steadiness (S), and Conscientiousness (C). It also acknowledges that each person is a blend of all four styles. Although, one or two styles predominate in each person.

Individuals who align with the Dominance (D) style prioritize results and take a direct approach. Those in the Influence (i) category prioritize relationships and social interaction, often displaying enthusiasm and optimism. Steadiness (S) style individuals are cooperative, reliable, and value group harmony. Lastly, Conscientiousness (C) style individuals prioritize accuracy and tend to be analytical, detail-oriented, and careful in their approach. Think about your leaders and your congregation.  Do you see a healthy mix of styles, or one style that’s predominant?

By categorizing behavioral tendencies, the DiSC® model allows a deeper understanding of how individuals interact and communicate within different contexts.

Now let’s look at the 3 powerful impacts of group culture on congregations.

 

  1. Group Culture is Self-Perpetuating

The first impact is a potential pitfall of group culture. The culture of a group tends to perpetuate itself. For example, a confident and energetic community naturally empowers and supports individuals who thrive in that environment. A careful and conscientious environment (C) naturally rewards others who are aligned with those values.

The opposite is also true. A confident and energetic community may frown upon harmony-seekers (S), or those who prioritize careful analysis (C). Likewise, a careful and conscientious environment (C) can shut down those who display too much enthusiasm (i), or those who are risk takers (D).

Tip: Even leaders fall prey to this. We in leadership often surround ourselves with people who are similar to us and share our values. When you leave out the voices at the margin, you’re missing out on differing perspectives that are necessary for a well-rounded approach.

 

  1. Leaders Matter in Shaping Group Culture

The second powerful impact of group culture on congregations is that leaders greatly influence the culture of the congregation. This is true of ordained, appointed, an elected leader—whether clergy or laity. That’s because leaders attract or repel others to their ideas and initiatives through their innate qualities. Their priorities naturally shape the agenda, while their pace sets the tone for how and when tasks are accomplished. Moreover, leaders have the power to determine which conversations receive attention and provide an interpretive lens for them. They may even select other leaders who align with their values and approach.

Tip: By leveraging your unique position of authority, you can shape the group culture and foster a more inclusive and positive environment for other DiSC® styles. This requires understanding the value of different behavioral styles, as well as navigating the challenges that might arise from working with all four styles. It’s important to remain to vigilant in recognizing attempts to exclude certain styles so that you can foster a supportive atmosphere that benefits everyone.

 

  1. Identify Your Group Culture

The third powerful impact on group culture is the pace and preference of your group culture. Some leaders tend to be fast-paced; they are comfortable taking action without having to know every detail. Others are more moderate-paced, preferring to think things through thoroughly before making decisions. Consider the preferences of each leader. Are they more people-oriented or project-oriented? Pace and preference shape group culture.

Tip: Take a moment to think about the leaders within your congregation. This includes both official and unofficial leaders, paid and volunteer staff, committee chairpersons, experienced members, and even those who may not always agree with the majority. Make a list of each leader and their pace and preference. See if you can match that to DiSC styles.

 

Maximize Congregational Influence on the Community

The more open the group culture—welcoming all four behavioral styles—the more likely the community will feel welcomed as they interact with you.  Remember that each community member also has a DiSC® style that influences how they approach life. Remain open to all the kinds of people God is sending your way.

By understanding and embracing behavioral diversity, leaders can create a balanced environment: one that is adventurous, curious, open, harmonious, and caring atmosphere where everyone feels seen, heard, and respected. Want to learn more? Join Creating a Culture of Renewal® to continue to learn, grow, and champion a culture grounded in love, understanding, and mutual respect.

 

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3 Strategies for Practicing Generational Intelligence

3 Strategies for Practicing Generational Intelligence

by | Aug 16, 2023

Generational intelligence is a vital skill for church leaders. Generational intelligence is the ability to connect with each generation in a way that honors their unique experiences and perspectives while maintaining a unified mission and identity. When you practice generational intelligence, you effectively bridge the generational gap within a church. You also expand your capacity to lead a multi-generational congregation. In this blog I will explain 3 strategies for practicing generational intelligence.

Before I delve into these practical strategies for meeting the diverse needs and experiences of different generations within a congregation, let me dispel a myth. We like to say that “children are the future of the church”. This is a myth on two levels. One, children or lack thereof are part of the present reality of the church. Two, if adults are not present to provide children support and guidance, then the church will not survive. That’s why understanding how to effectively lead a multi-generational congregation is vital to a growing church.

 

Understanding Generational Differences

The first step to practicing generational intelligence is to understand subtle generational differences. Unique historical events and cultural shifts shape each generation. Let’s take a look at a few examples:

The Greatest Generation, born before 1928, endured the Great Depression and World War II which instilled values of resilience and patriotism.

Baby Boomers, born from 1946 to 1964, lived through the Kennedy assassination, the Vietnam War, and cultural movements like Civil Rights, Gay Pride, and the Jesus revolution. They now face the challenge of balancing current needs with saving for the future.

Generation Y, or Millennials, born between 1981 and 1996, grew up with happily ever-after Disney movies while experiencing the impacts of 9/11, the invasion of Iraq, and the Great Recession. Social networking became a defining aspect of their lives.

Both Gen Z (born from 1997 to 2012) and Generation Alpha (born from 2010 to the present) encounter distinct challenges. They have come of age in the aftermath of events like 9/11, grappling with natural disasters and constant connection to the digital world. Their lives have been shaped by witnessing the global impact of the COVID-19 pandemic and the rise of social justice movements such as Black Lives Matter and March for Our Lives. Their worldview is influenced by extreme weather events, enforced isolation, and an uncertain future. Growing up in socially and politically divided environments, both generations are not inherently learning the value of compromise and cooperation.

By understanding the experiences and influences that shape each generation, you can better minister to the needs of different age groups.

 

3 Strategies for Generational Intelligence

To effectively lead a multi-generational congregation, church leaders must practice these 3 strategies for generational intelligence.

1) Embrace Diversity – Cultivate a church environment that embraces and celebrates a diverse range of opinions, experiences, and backgrounds. That means you’ll need to foster open dialogue, get to know the personal narratives of members, and acknowlede their distinctive contributions. This will go a long way toward valuing the different perspectives of each generation.

2) Seek Out Wisdom – Recognize the wisdom and knowledge that comes with diverse experiences. Seek input from individuals of different generations and actively listen to their perspectives to gain insight into how best to lead a diverse congregation.

3) Foster Intergenerational Relationships – Don’t just work with people similar to you in age. Connect with individuals of all ages and look for ways to build bridges between generations. This could include developing volunteer opportunities that span a range of ages or creating church activities that cater to both young and old alike. Older congregants can connect emotionally to youth by helping teach practical application activities like gardening and social belonging through civic involvement. Young adults can help less tech-savy elders by teaching them how to text, take videos, create avatars, and use new apps.

 

Applying Generational Intelligence

As you prioritize diverse generational perspectives, you are in a better position to reflect on your ministry. To meet the distinct needs of each generation, ask yourself the following questions:

How do the concerns of different generations impact a congregation and shape its culture?

How might each generation perceive God, church, and discipleship?

What perspectives can each generation contribute to the church?

Based on your answers, you now have insight into your next steps.

 

Next Steps

Leading across generations is a challenging but rewarding endeavor. Understanding the perspectives of others can shed light on not just our differences, but our similarities.  This crucial realization can open the eyes of all generations and ease your path to successfully leading a flourishing and healthy congregation.

If you’re seeking more strategies for practicing generational intelligence, let me invite you to my upcoming seminar – How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®. This seminar is a golden opportunity to delve deeper into the dynamics of thriving congregations and learn practical tools for fostering a culture of renewal within your ministry.

I look forward to seeing you there.

 

 

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Comfort and Challenge – A Ministry Balancing Act

Comfort and Challenge – A Ministry Balancing Act

by | Aug 1, 2023

Church growth is a complex and multifaceted process, but at its core, it involves creating a skillful balance of comfort and challenge. The art of church growth lies in the ability to present the comforting love of Jesus Christ while simultaneously challenging congregation members to grow in their faith, as well as their commitment to the engagements of the church. This ministry balancing act, offering both comfort and challenge, inspires spiritual growth, fosters community, and facilitates the expansion of the congregation.

Church leaders must understand their congregation and its culture to achieve this balance. For example, a church in an urban area may have members more open to lobbying community leaders and organizations for social change. In contrast, a congregation in a rural area may be more apt to focus on outreach by providing nurturing ministries. Knowing the culture of your congregation allows you to present challenges that are appropriate for your members, making them more likely to respond positively.

 

Inner-Focused and Outer-Focused Ministries

Church ministries generally fall into one of two categories: inner-focused or outer-focused. Inner-focused ministries nurture the congregation from within, while outer-focused ministries extend the church’s influence beyond its walls to tackle societal issues. In Creating a Culture of Renewal® we empower church leaders like you to achieve this essential ministry balancing act between comfort and challenge.

An overemphasis on inner-focused ministries can lead to complacency within the congregation, causing stagnation. This creates an insular community, disconnected from the reality of the world just outside the church’s doors. Conversely, giving attention only to outer-focused ministries may lead to burnout among congregation members, draining them spiritually and emotionally. It can also result in a neglect of the congregation’s spiritual needs.

Echoing Jesus’ example of compassionate mercy and prophetic justice, both types of ministries hold immense importance. By embracing this balance, you pave the way for a comprehensive ministry approach that caters to both congregational needs and broader societal concerns. Here’s how.

 

Balancing Comfort and Challenge Ministries

The rate and severity of natural disasters are increasing around us. You can address the needs of those impacted by natural disasters by using a two-fold approach. First, offer comfort to those hit by a natural disaster – whether flood, fire, hurricane, tornado, mudslide, or earthquake – by meeting their immediate needs. Tap into ministries that create flood buckets, collect first aid supplies, or rebuild homes or churches in the face of these disasters. These expressions of mercy will go a long way toward offering comfort.

Second, address the root causes of natural disasters. For example, flooding is made far worse in developing countries when garbage dumps clog urban drainage systems. Join cleanup efforts to restore unhindered storm water runoff. You can also join tree planting initiatives in deforested areas, thereby preventing future mudslides. Through this long term approach to change, many lives can be saved by restoring Earth’s natural ecosystems.

 

The Need for Balance

A thriving church must have a healthy mix of both comfort and challenge ministries. To hit this sweet spot, take the following six steps:

  1. List your current ministries. Which would you categorize as comfort-oriented (inner-focused or compassionate mercy), and which are challenge-oriented(outer-focused or prophetic justice)?
  2. Is there a notable imbalance between comfort and challenge-oriented ministries? Note which type dominates.
  3. What resources (human, financial, physical, etc.) do you currently have that could be directed toward developing new comfort or new challenge ministries?
  4. Who has skills or experiences that might be beneficial in leading or contributing to these new ministries?
  5. Are there opportunities to partner with other churches or community organizations to enhance your efforts?
  6. Choose one or two ministries to develop that will balance out your mix of ministry offerings.

 

Balancing comfort and challenge ministries will fuel growth, drive positive change, and strengthen connections within your congregation and community.

If you want to learn more about how to lead this kind of change, join me for my upcoming seminar, “How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal®.” Please share your thoughts in the comments and connect with us for a one-on-one conversation. Let’s embark on this transformative journey together.

 

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How to Lead with Influence and Impact

How to Lead with Influence and Impact

by | Jul 25, 2023

Leadership is an essential aspect of every congregational community. As a leader, you set the tone for how the congregation functions. However, even the most faithful congregation could become divisive, chaotic, or unproductive without effective leadership. One of the often-overlooked characteristics of effective leaders is emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to how well you manage your own emotions and responses and react to those of others. Leaders with high EI can foster an environment of trust, respect, and cooperation, leading to a harmonious and effective congregation.

All this is to say that an emotionally intelligent leader knows how to lead with influence and impact.

Want to become an emotionally intelligent leader? It all begins with being self-aware of your own emotions and understanding how they impact those around you.

Over the years, I have helped countless people discover how to lead better with emotional intelligence. One of the ways I have done this is by helping leaders develop a deeper sense of self-awareness through the DiSC® model.

This model offers a unique perspective on how you function by examining your ways of being through different behavioral dimensions: Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness. Each domain represents a preferred style of behavior, and understanding these preferences can greatly enhance emotional intelligence in the context of your leadership, allowing you to tailor your leadership approach to meet the diverse needs of your congregation.

Let’s explore how emotional intelligence and the DiSC® model work hand in hand to empower congregational leaders and create a thriving community.

 

Strategies for Developing Emotional Intelligence in Congregational Leaders

Like most skills, the good news is that EI can be developed and honed over time. Here are some strategies that you, as a church leader, can use to improve your EI skills:

1) Practice mindfulness and self-awareness to better understand your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions.

Mindfulness and self-awareness are essential to greater understanding of yourself. Instead of reacting to worries or intrusive thoughts, you can observe them. Becoming aware of how your body copes with what you’re feeling helps to acknowledge the feeling with more clarity and embrace better solutions. You learn to understand yourself objectively and nonjudgmentally.

 

2) Understand the emotions of others by practicing active listening, seeking feedback, and managing and regulating emotions-leveraging them to build deep relationships with congregants and community.

If you want to understand the feelings and perspectives of congregants, it’s essential to practice active listening. This decreases assumptions and increases understanding. Plus, it encourages further conversation. Gathering feedback can also help to form an in-depth picture of emotions. A great way to manage and recognize feelings is through emotion regulation. Learning about the nuances of emotions can be beneficial when building relationships with congregants. Leveraging insight into emotions deepens connections and helps eliminate communication obstacles.

 

3) Enhance communication by controlling non-verbal signals and being empathetic towards others.

Developing your capacity for empathy can play an integral role in improving communication. Listening actively to what others are saying without jumping to conclusions can help ensure full understanding between both parties. Controlling nonverbal cues also has a big impact — facial expressions, body posture, and hand motions add meaningful context to conversations and should be considered during exchanges. These unspoken cues are present not just in your direct communications with others, but also in your worship leadership experiences.

 

4) Encourage conflict resolution by creating opportunities for congregants to express themselves and work towards a mutual solution.

Ensuring everyone feels heard and acknowledged is key to effective conflict resolution. Congregants must be able to express their thoughts and feelings freely in a safe space. By doing so, congregations can more easily move toward mutually acceptable solutions. Creating an atmosphere conducive to peace-making is essential. Encouraging community members to work together toward resolution not only helps strengthen relationships and grow trust among peers but will also foster an environment of understanding and unity.

 

Effective leadership is the glue that holds a congregation together. While strong EI skills alone won’t solve all your challenges as a leader, they will go a long way toward creating a harmonious and productive congregational culture. A leader with high EI can communicate and empathize well with their congregants, handle conflict, and build transformative relationships. So, you should strive to cultivate EI in yourself, your colleagues, and the congregation you serve, to deepen your connections and lead more effectively.

If you’re ready to take the next step in developing your emotional intelligence and becoming a fully formed leader, I invite you to explore the power of the DiSC® model further. Join our Creating a Culture of Renewal® cohort where you’ll learn about the DiSC® dimensions and gain valuable insights and practical tools to become an emotionally intelligent leader. Creating a Culture of Renewal® is an award-winning three-year program designed to help you navigate the complexities of congregational leadership and empower you to create a culture of renewal within your community.

Register for our free How Christian Ministries are Achieving Success: An Introduction to Creating a Culture of Renewal® seminar to learn more.

Together, we can create thriving congregations led by emotionally intelligent leaders, who positively impact the lives of those around them.

 

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