How to Overcome Negativity with Emotional Intelligence
People are on edge with each other, hypervigilant, buffeted in a sea of negativity. Clergy colleagues report that otherwise stable church folks are having meltdowns and launching into attack mode. My husband, a cordial golfer, returned from the links last night...
What to Leave Out in Conversations about Race
Law, custom, and even religion are intertwined with racism. It's so pervasive that it's not always easy to identify, let alone dismantle. We must approach Constructive conversations about racism with emotional intelligence. I have written about arriving at workable...
The Surprising Impact of Emotional Intelligence on Racism
Emotional intelligence is a soft skill often prized in the world of interpersonal relationships. Can it be used as a tool to dismantle something as hard and ingrained as systemic racism? My answer is a resounding yes. In fact, I don’t think that the structures,...
The Vital Step Your Church Can Take in Addressing Racism
As conversations about race, racism, and racial justice heat up, you may be wondering what you can do to engage your congregation and your community in addressing racism. Where should you begin? March for Black Lives Matter? Write letters to the editor? Support people...
How the Pandemic Prepared Churches to Address Racism
Over the last three months, the church pivoted quickly to be able to serve people in a new way. You have made changes that needed to be made for years. You have moved from being building-bound to offering online worship, from attendance-based giving to online...
Your First Sunday Back
“What should we focus on during our first Sunday back in the building?” someone recently asked me. “Celebration,” I said, without thinking. “Celebrate who you have become through this pandemic. A crisis of this proportion has expanded your capacity. Own it....